When I was a kid and we did something really dumb my mom would ask "Do you have holes in your head?". Its amusing to think that maybe I did.
That's rough. It's ironic too because their pursuit someone who isn't interested in them is like categorically a loser thing to do. It looks desperate and gross. Best advice I ever got in relationships after a rough breakup was to simply put energy into taking care of and improving myself instead of putting my focus on attaining a relationship. It was helpful advice because it made me happier and put my focus on something that made me happier rather than chasing some aspect of life I couldn't control. You can't make other people love you, but you can choose to love yourself, and you will always have yourself. As a nice side effect, the confidence and calm that comes with self acceptance did later help me find someone. I won't say I'm perfect at it, but after processing (and a bit of therapy) I came to realize that I had improved a lot and that prior to that period of growth it made sense why and how the relationships I tried to have before that point had failed.
Haskell definitely front loads some of the complexity so while it is universally simpler I wouldn't say it feels that way when you're learning, but I think OCaml for the most part, does feel as simple as python or js while being much simpler. I'm similarly a big fan of F# which is like OCaml but for .NET.
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